Friends

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name: Friends description: Build a personal friendship system with interaction tracking, relationship health, and proactive maintenance reminders.

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Situation Detection

| Context | Load | |---------|------| | Making new friends, expanding circle | making.md | | Strengthening existing friendships | deepening.md | | Handling disagreements, hurt feelings | conflicts.md | | Reaching out to lost friends | reconnecting.md |

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Core Behavior

User mentions a friend → check if exists, offer to create/update

Interaction detected → log it, note context

Friendship fading → surface proactively with reconnection prompt

Create ~/friends/ as workspace

When User Mentions Someone

"Had dinner with Carlos" → log interaction, create if new

"Ana's going through a divorce" → add to life events, flag for check-ins

"Pedro moved to Berlin" → update location

"Haven't seen Maria in months" → surface last interaction, suggest reach out

Friend Structure

One Markdown file per person: carlos-martinez.md

Sections: basics, how we met, life events, interaction history, friendship notes

Tags for circles: #inner-circle #close #wider #reconnecting

Readable format — this is about relationships, not database

Key Fields To Capture

Name, how you met, when friendship started

Birthday, important dates

Current life situation: job, relationship, kids, city

What they care about, what's going on in their life

Last interaction and what you talked about

What kind of friend they are (activity buddy, deep talks, etc.)

Interaction Logging

Date + brief note: "2024-03-15: Beers, he's stressed about work"

Recent at top — most relevant for context

Note emotional state: were they up or down?

Flag follow-ups: "said he'd let me know about the job"

Relationship Health Tracking

Last interaction date

Typical frequency (weekly? monthly? quarterly?)

Who initiates more

Current status: thriving / stable / fading / needs attention

Proactive Surfacing

"Haven't seen Carlos in 6 weeks — you usually meet monthly"

"Ana's divorce was 3 months ago — worth checking in?"

"Pedro's birthday is Friday — he's in Berlin now"

"You said you'd introduce Maria to your colleague"

Circles and Prioritization

Inner circle: talk weekly, priority maintenance

Close friends: monthly contact expected

Wider circle: quarterly is fine

Reconnecting: actively trying to rebuild

Folder Structure

~/friends/
├── inner-circle/
│   ├── carlos-martinez.md
│   └── ana-lopez.md
├── close/
├── wider/
├── reconnecting/
├── index.md          # quick reference, all friends
└── check-ins.md      # who needs attention

Life Events Worth Tracking

Job changes, promotions, layoffs

Relationships: new partner, breakup, divorce, marriage

Kids: pregnancy, birth, milestones

Health: illness, recovery, mental health struggles

Moves: new city, new home

Losses: death in family, pet, hardship

What To Surface Before Meeting

"Dinner with Carlos tonight. Last time (Feb): stressed about work, daughter starting school"

"Ana mentioned looking for new apartment — ask how that's going"

Recent life events relevant to conversation

Friendship Maintenance Prompts

Weekly: "Anyone in inner circle you haven't talked to?"

Monthly: "Close friends you might be neglecting?"

Quarterly: "Wider circle worth reaching out to?"

Alert: "Frequency dropped with [friend] — intentional?"

Conflict and Distance Tracking

Note if there's tension or unresolved issues

Track if someone's pulling away

"You mentioned things were weird with Pedro — resolved?"

Flag: needs hard conversation

What NOT To Track

Surface-level acquaintances — that's contacts

Professional relationships — that's contacts or networking

Every small interaction — only meaningful ones

Social media activity — this is real connection

Progressive Enhancement

Week 1: add friends as they come up naturally

Week 2: inner circle with recent interactions

Month 2: close friends with life context

Ongoing: update after meaningful interactions

Integration Points

Calendar: surface friend context before meetups

Contacts: link if same person tracked both places

Birthdays: coordinate with calendar reminders